Disqualified From The Dating Game: Epilogue

The guidelines to love are thought to be too complex to be simplified in eight steps, especially if presented by someone once deficient in the social curriculum of behavioral development. Yet somehow, I’ve managed to pull off this incredible feat. As mentioned in the previous segment of this extended article, the second half of my eight rules to dating success has been posted separately due to the site’s limited word capacity. Thanks for reading. I wish the best of luck and faith to everyone in their romantic pursuits.



5. Become a great listener.



Women have the notorious tendency to talk nonstop for several hours on end, especially when bothered by something in particular. No matter how slight a problem may be, a woman will let her boyfriend or husband know everything about it. Any guy caught in this rapid, raging current of words will most likely find the perfect opportunity to escape it, like telling her the "sudden plans" he made with his friends to meet at the bar downtown, immediately followed by bolting out the door. It’s tempting to leave the premises when your partner begins the usual one-way argument, but leaving until she winds down will only do harm to the relationship. She won’t soon forget about being ignored at a time when she wanted to be heard. In most of these cases, she either has a lot more on her mind to talk about than the current situation, or, after a long stressful day, she simply wants to share her feelings with someone she can respect and trust.







6. Make her feel special.



It may appear obvious to some that a lot of women enjoy going out with guys that deserve them the least, but the opposite is true. A qualified bachelor may ask, "Why do all the cute girls fall for the selfish, abusive egomaniacs?" Of course, not all of them do, but some end up spending more time than they should with this type of guy because they are usually insecure about the course of their own lives and don’t know yet what they want out of it. They’re just as afraid of feeling alone as anyone else taking these rules to heart, so sometimes they hook up with the a guy who’s overly assertive, obnoxious, and craving for attention even more then they are. Real men don’t date to improve their image or reputation, and likewise for women. Both parties desire the feeling of being wanted and important in someone’s life. Gifts are a nice way to show she’s worth it, but there are more exciting ways to put her on a high pedestal. Giving a firm back rub at night, painting a portrait or performing a song written solely for her are perfect examples of this enhanced form of affection.



7. Be patient.



If you feel like your chances at bringing your date home, let alone making it to first base, are below average at best, don’t immediately assume that she’s no longer interested in you. She’ll let you know how slow or fast she wants the path of the romance to play out. Don’t be surprised if she postpones the next date for a week or two; better for her to delay the dating process than cancel it altogether. Some girls prefer to be cautious early on in the relationship to know whether or not the guy is a keeper. During this phase, they’ll closely examine the man’s etiquette, hygiene, attitude, respect, and even his patience. Guys that tend to rush into a relationship at the nearest opportunity are often depicted as desperate. Give her breathing space and time alone to decide what’s best for her. It’s an act of selflessness, and even if she decides to back out, there are always more options available as long as you’re willing to work for them.



8. Love yourself just as much as you love her.



If you’re at the turning point in the relationship where it’s getting fairly serious and you end up glancing at the engagement ring section at the local jewelry dealer on more than one occasion, it’s time to give a major self-evaluation and decide if life’s course is heading in the desired direction, and if it isn’t, consider these questions: What long-term goals have been set or accomplished, if any? How do you define the term "financially successful"? Are you content with the position of your career or are you about to throw that office computer out the third floor window? Do you want to have children and pass your experiences and wisdom onto them, or does the intense responsibility reinforce a second opinion? In a nutshell, ask yourself if you are currently satisfied with the everyday occurrences and events that make up your life, and if not, at what lengths you will go to change them. Lasting relationships will always remain dependent on the level of happiness couples share on every aspect of their lifestyles. Achieving long-term goals creates a strong sense of confidence and self worth; traits that your partner will admire for years to come. Having a desirable career and financial security will dramatically decrease the chances of argument and potential divorce. The choice of raising children can be the most difficult to make for couples, but with excellent parenthood comes an form of love you’ll share that is even stronger before your son or daughter was born, in which the bond you share with your wife or partner will blossom to new heights. Love can last beyond the passionate early years of the relationship, but commitment, effort and self-respect must be put into action for it to permeate.